Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Mind and Body Fitness for Lifelong Good Health

Mind and Body Fitness for Lifelong Good Health
Use movement to explore the connection between body and mind.
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

Mind and body fitness? Many people who want to get into shape don't realize there is more to fitness than well-toned muscles. There's no shortage of exercise regimes that just promote the perfection of the body, or the idea of fitness as a part of a weight loss plan.
Centuries ago, Western culture lost its focus on the interconnectedness between the body and the mind or spirit, and how each has the power to affect the other. Cultivating a love of movement can help you get beyond the concept of physical fitness as separate from mental fitness – and toward a lifelong program of good health through mind and body fitness.
Whether you choose yoga or another form of movement for exercise, remember that our bodies are made to move to feel good. So when you incorporate regular activity in your life, you’re moving closer to overall mind and body fitness. But if you are overweight, this can be more difficult. You can improve your mind-body connection for better mind and body fitness – it’s just important to choose realistic fitness options.
You might consider redefining exercise as any activity that unites your mind and body and reduces your stress level. In fact, high levels of stress have been linked to weight gain, and certainly can lead to emotional eating. Finding activities that are both enjoyable and easy to do is important when developing any type of exercise plan.
It's important to be realistic about what we expect from ourselves. Consider your goals. Is 30 to 60 minutes on a treadmill a reasonable time frame at this point in your life? Are you setting yourself up for failure or success when you create this expectation for yourself? Would it be more enjoyable to you to do some stretching and a shorter period of time on the treadmill?
Developing an exercise plan that fits your lifestyle and your desires is critical. Surprisingly, long-term weight loss is linked more closely to whether a person sticks to their fitness routine than to what that routine actually consists of. A routine that is gentle and pleasurable is more likely to lead to the long-term gains you are seeking.
All-or-nothing thinking about exercise leads us to first bite off more than we can chew and then give up all together. Just walk into a gym in the month of January and try to get on a Stairmaster. There's a good chance you'll have to wait in line. But by March or April, there are usually plenty of free machines.
It is also important to tailor your fitness goals to your preferences. Some people like the idea of getting out of the house in the evening and going to the gym. Others prefer staying home and doing a quieter exercise routine after the demands of a stressful day. Either approach, or a combination of the two, can result in improved mind and body fitness.
What is critical is for you to come to know yourself and to take yourself seriously. If you like to be home in the evenings, find things to do in your home or consider an occasional walk with friends or family. If you crave the company of others, head for the gym. Think about what would please you most, and follow your inner voice.
Many people who are preoccupied with food and body issues tend to pay too much attention to the needs of others, while paying too little attention to their own needs. While you may intend to benefit your children with their countless activities, the added stress can cause an imbalance within your family. Can you take a look at your schedule (or your family's) and reschedule some time for yourself? What would it be like to say no?
Long-term weight loss can take time. And we can get demoralized when we don't see immediate results. But remember that maintaining an exercise routine is associated with physical as well as mental well-being. Where has our focus on the numbers on our scale gotten us? Some would say it has taken us to more harsh thoughts, more bingeing and grazing on food, and, ironically, less fitness rather than more.
It may be that the best exercise you can do right now is to throw your scale into the garbage. Focus on how you're feeling with your exercise routine. Is it something you enjoy and can maintain? Is it reducing your stress level and allowing a connection between your mind and body? If so, you'll probably keep it up, and fitness of mind and body and spirit will be yours.
Don't forget how important it is to see your physician before starting any type of exercise routine, and to following his or her recommendations. So try to be gentle with yourself and realistic about how to proceed.
There is tremendous confusion in our society about how to approach health and fitness. You may have tried losing weight before and failed. But consider the possibility that we as a society have not failed at dieting and weight loss. Rather, dieting has failed us as an effective tool for fitness.
Remember that fitness of mind and body belong together, and that exercise is very narrowly defined in our society. So redefine exercise as any activity that reduces stress and connects your mind and body. You'll be more likely to continue your exercise plan and achieve the outcome you're looking for.


Friday, October 25, 2013

Caring for the Soul


Thomas Moore, in his book Care of the Soul, describes soul  as "not a thing, but a quality or a dimension of experiencing life and ourselves....When soul is neglected, it doesn't just go away; it appears symptomatically in obsessions, addictions, violence, and loss of meaning. Our temptation is to isolate these symptoms or to try to eradicate them one by one; but the root problem is that we have lost our wisdom about the soul, even our interest in it....We have come to know soul only in its complaints: when it stirs, disturbed by neglect and abuse, and causes us to feel pain."

Moore continues to remind us that we live in a time where mind is separated from body and spirituality "is at odds with materialism." He tells us the only way to fix this dualistic attitude is through soul. Psychotherapy has it's place but it focuses on "fixing and curing or changing, adjusting or making healthy." We start from the premise that there is something wrong that needs to be fixed. But soul "doesn't look to the future for an ideal, trouble-free existence. Rather it remains patiently in the present."

Every day, therapists hear from clients the following emotional complaints:

  • emptiness
  • meaninglessness
  • vague depression
  • disillusionment about marriage, family, and relationship
  • a loss of values
  • yearning for personal fulfillment
  • a hunger for spirituality

Moore tells us "All of these symptoms reflect a loss of soul and let us know what the soul craves. We yearn excessively for entertainment, power, intimacy, sexual fulfillment, and material things, and we think we can find these things if we discover the right relationship or job, the right church or therapy. But without soul, whatever we find will be unsatisfying, for what we truly long for is the soul in each of these areas. Lacking that soulfulness, we attempt to gather these alluring satisfactions to us in great masses, thinking apparently that quantity will make up for lack of quality."

Depression is a huge problem and is viewed as a negative thing that we must talk and medicate our way out of. We pathologize depression and treat it as a problem that needs to be cured. We believe something is wrong because we are not happy and will take extreme measures to fix things.We self-medicate with drugs, foods, sex, gambling, shopping, whatever fix we can get to feel better for the time being. But the problem remains.

When faced with depression, ask yourself "does it have some necessary role to play?...Some feelings and thoughts seem to emerge only in a dark mood. Suppress the mood, and you suppress those ideas and reflections" (Moore). "What if we looked at  'depression' as simply a state of being, neither good or bad, something the soul does in its own good time and for its own good reason?"
"....We might see melancholy more as a valid way of being rather than as a problem that needs to be eradicated."
"Melancholy gives the soul and opportunity to express a side of its nature that as valid as any other, but is hidden out of our distaste for its darkness and bitterness" (Moore).
Moore suggests we broaden our vision and view feelings of emptiness as not negative but as a way to give life "fresh imagination." We should let go of the notion that we have to always be happy and learn from those times when we are sad and melancholy.

If you are depressed or otherwise not happy or fulfilled, instead of thinking something is wrong with you, ask instead: What is the problem that is leading me to feel this way and then fix that!

Take some time for soul care!

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Anger quote


For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Friday, October 18, 2013

Good health




"You don't pay the price for good health. You enjoy the benefits of good health." Zig Ziglar

Thursday, October 17, 2013

It's Cheat Day - Watch Your Language


Watch Your Language - excerpt from ProSource Nov 2013 article: Can Clients “Cheat” Their Way to Weight Loss? by Daniel J. Green 


According to Dr. Brehm, simply using the phrase “cheat day” is something fitness professionals and their clients should avoid. “If the goal is to change a client’s attitude toward food, using the word ‘cheat’ is not the best choice.” She explains that this term creates a strong negative association with the very behavior clients are trying to change. “Fitness professionals need to be very mindful of each client’s relationship with food issues,” says Dr. Brehm. Making a client feel bad about being a “cheater” is never a good thing.
Jonathan Ross concurs. “I do not believe eating is a moral activity, so calling something a ‘cheat’ day continues the destructive paradigm of food choices being either good or bad from a moral perspective. Thinking this way indicates a lack of sophistication surrounding food, and the only way to have success long-term is to develop a deeper understanding and appreciation for the powerful and enjoyable role that nutrition plays in health.” Remind clients that food is meant to be enjoyed, not feared.  “And that refers to healthy food,” says Ross. “It is meant to be enjoyed, and it can be by almost everyone as long as the worship of junk foods is toned down and a more mature perspective is adopted.”

Friday, October 4, 2013

Let it go





"Attachment to a hurt arising from a past event blocks the inflow of hope into our lives." -St. John of the Cross

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Follow your own advice






"You are so courageous as long as no opposition comes your way. You can also give good advice and can encourage others with your words; but when some unexpected trouble turns up on your own doorstep, your good advice and moral support fail you."          -Thomas Kempis








I think most of us are good at giving advice we do not follow. Maybe you advise friends or family members about their schedule. You tell them they work too hard and need to take a break and have some fun. We tell them that, but continue to pack our own schedules so tight we too are stressed out. I am the first to admit I am guilty of giving advice that I don't take.

As a Christian and mental health counselor, I want to help others be healthy in mind, body, and spirit. The reality is, as long as I'm just doing the talk and not walking the walk, I'm not helping anyone, least of all myself.

Jesus, help me heed the advice of Thomas Kempis so I may practice what I preach.



The Imitation of Christ, Book 3, Chapter 57 by Thomas Kempis